Fear. I hate FEAR the most, but yet it’s what I struggle with the most. Can you relate? Here are a few of my fears: I’m scared of the dark, snakes, loosing people that I love, the unknown and lots of other things. Fear has had more say in my life than I have, until recently. We live our lives in fear, whether we want to or not, unless we have a hold on it. What about you, dear friend? Where do you stand with fear? Lets talk about it.
In middle school, high school, and college, I had lost so many friends due to fights or them just randomly deciding that they didn’t want to be friends with me anymore. That left a scar. Due to this scar, I had developed a fear towards losing people or just feeling that I was not good enough to be a friend or someone people wanted. Up until this point in college, I had lived a lot of life. I know a lot of people say that, but I had been through my fair share of life. Struggling with all different kinds of sin and fear was only one of them. By my second year of sophomore year, (I had lost credits when transferring) I met a good friend of mine. She spoke life over me and she took God out of this box I had placed him in. We got into a conversation about my past and losing people. She looked me dead in the eyes and said, “Why do you let fear run your life?” Of course in this season of life, instead of saying, “Oh it’s because I don’t trust God and I am running off of anxiety,” I said quickly and sharply, “I don’t.” That question has haunted me every since.
Why do we let fear run our lives? I will even take it one step further, why do we let fear become something we worship instead of God?
Of course, lets take a look at the definition of fear:
Fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
Pretty deep definition. An unpleasant emotion…you mean something that doesn’t feel normal? Well, fear isn’t normal. Fear is a learned behavior and we learn that behavior from sin. Fear took root in the Garden of Eden with Adam and Eve. Can you picture literally not living your life in fear? Before Eve and Adam ate the apple, they had no fear. They lived life in a continuous, loving communion with God. But then the snake took the apple to Eve and Eve gave some to Adam and their eyes were then opened (Genesis 3). THEY SAW FEAR. Fear that they messed up, fear that there was no turning back; and unfortunately for them and for us, there wasn’t.
Most of the time, we point the finger at Adam and Eve because they messed everything up…but was it really Adam and Eve? Are they not human just like us? Was it the snake? The deceptive, manipulative creature that is satan himself. The point that I am trying to make is, fear isn’t from God (unless you fear Him, which is a totally different story). Fear is from satan. Fear isn’t truth, it is lie after lie, after lie that you and I believe. We start to believe that fear has truth and then we let it reign over our lives.
Fear starts off as a lie, something you believe about yourself or someone else. For me, it was thinking no one wanted to be my friend. The lies grow into this overwhelming prison that captivates our hearts to believe that whatever is against us, whatever fear we have let in our hearts and is dwelling there, is going to harm us. So again for me, I thought every time I got close to someone they were going to leave me, in turn leaving me hurt and wounded. Fear chains us to satan. He wants us to stay down in misery with him. Have you ever realized that what fear is? Fear is misery. You start getting anxiety or emotions that you can’t control. You start to believe the whole world is against you and you alone.
Then God screams, “Child stop! Lay down your fear…lay down your misery and meet me at the cross. I am for you, I love you. I don’t want you to feel this way.” You see the opposite of fear isn’t not-fearing, the opposite of fear is love. The only way that you can fully be out of fear, out of anxiety out of doubt is to realize what God has done for YOU! There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. -1 John 4:18
Every time I start getting fearful of something I have to do a heart check and it looks something like this:
1. What is the lie I am facing to make me so fearful?
2. What is the truth behind this fear?
3. Am I sitting in the arms of my dear Savior?
4. If I am not, what do I need to leave at the foot of the cross to leave fear and receive love?
Dear friends, fear is something we need to be aware of. It becomes an idol if we don’t do heart checks on it. It can become the most consuming thing in our lives because it is what feeds us, captivates us, and chains us. So let me ask you honestly, where do you stand with fear? What do you need to lay down? I am not perfect, I am right there with you, laying my fears down, too.
You don’t need to be perfect, you are accepted here…Welcome home.